1. SPEND TIME APART
You love each other more when you’re apart. I find it fosters communication & also allows room for building trust. You’ll recognise that your time together becomes more precious & so when you do come together again quality time is maximised as if a whole new level of appreciation for each other has been opened.
2. CHOOSE QUALITY TIME OVER SCREEN TIME
One of our many first world problems? If you want to maximise your quality time then you gotta put your phones down when together, it’s as simple as that.
3. DON’T LET JEALOUSY GET TO YOU
Jealousy is a natural human emotion & we’ve all been there, but like everything else.. there’s a limit. Excessive jealousy can become abusive & that to me is an immediate red flag; it needs to be dealt with caution. Love can be defined in so many ways, but possessive & or controlling isn’t it. That nature ain’t attractive & it will only create problems where there were none. I feel jealousy is driven from a personal matter that needs to be addressed seriously before someone gets hurt.
4. DON’T GET TOO COMFORTABLE
Never let yourself get too comfortable, it’s a trap. The zone where you feel as if you’ve already accomplished your goal/s so you let loose for a period.. Suddenly that period becomes a long term habit & it leads to dull things. I personally feel that growth, development & change (with yourself & your relationship) all ends when you get too comfortable. Keep it interesting, keep it far from comfortable.
5. RESPECT EACH OTHER
It’s not just a feeling, it’s a behaviour. The freedom to be yourself & to be accepted & loved for exactly who you are by those you love is one of the greatest feelings “alive”. We may argue & disagree, but we should always maintain respect for one another. This means giving each other space & appreciate all versions of each other.
6. OPEN COMMUNICATION
This is something you should be very comfortable with in your relationship. Being consistently open with each other leaves little room for misunderstandings. Open communication may sound easy AF, but we all know it can be a real struggle at times. So what do you do when you’re not good at it? Practice more. This practice encourages respect, patience & helps you better express yourself so that you can be properly understood by others.
7. HAVE TRUST
Trust your instincts that this should come naturally, but if it doesn’t then it’s probably shhh. I mean, should there be a reason for you to not trust your partner? If you need to think about it then it’s a sign for you to re-evaluate the relationship.
8. SUPPORT EACH OTHER
Support comes in many forms; emotional, physical, mental, spiritual, financial.. whether it be one or a combination, we all need it as “it helps with stressful times, reduces stress, increases life-span & gives greater level of happiness”. A little support here & there goes a long way.
9. SHUT YOUR MONEY
This is my favourite rule in all my relationships. Don’t argue over money. Money can simply change people so we need to treasure those who aren’t easily affected by it. I know that arguments about money ain’t just about the money at times, but that’s the thing.. Don’t let it lead to an argument, don’t think about it & it won’t get any dollar out of you.
10. LEARN TO GIVE & TAKE
A happy & healthy relationship takes two so never let it be one-sided. There should be a balance; you need to know when to compromise or co-operate. I know this is easier said than done for various scenarios, but putting in a little more effort each time will give you so much more in return.
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